Some responses are inappropriate – many of our attitudes and feelings are results of conditioning during formative years. All conditioning becomes absolute truth to us once it is accepted by the subconscious.
Behavior is built upon suggestion, and reaching the subconscious mind with new, powerful, positive concepts is the only way to overcome past programming. Symptoms of habits can be eliminated even if they are the result of some repressed incident or memory.
A person can be dependant upon a symptom or habit as a defense against some traumatic situation they have chosen to forget. In such cases the subconscious may have difficulty accepting the desired suggestion. The subconscious memory can be brought back to the realm of conscious thinking and re-evaluated. Then, with nothing to hide or fear they can eliminate the habit or symptom.
Thinking with our emotions instead of our conscious, reasoning mind may be more comfortable in the short run, but we usually pay a heavy price for such a comfort.
An emotional mature person learns to reject the emotions that are detrimental to his well-being and nurture those conductive to health and happiness. Negative emotions make us unhappy and sick. Every emotion has a physical effect.
With repetition, affirmations will facilitate control of the emotions without conscious effort, allowing you to choose which you wish to control.
Anger is the most destructive of all emotions because it lies hidden, unrecognized, in many other symptoms of maladjustment. In guilt we are angry with ourselves. In hate we are angry at the object of our hatred. In self-pity we are angry at the situations or people that frustrate us. Expressed or suppressed, it accounts for most of our misery. Few of us can become so emotionally mature as to completely free ourselves of anger, but by minimizing it we can lead much happier lives.
Expressing anger in relationships usually arouses anger and escalates hostility. Because of this, most people learn to suppress anger, and it festers like an infected sore, causing chronic physical change in the body that lead to illness and depression.
Rather than becoming angry or afraid, either of which confuses the brain, we must try to avoid such emotions. But first we must realize we have them, discover their source, and understand their destructive nature.
You will not become angry at people if you consider them emotionally as well as intellectually. Consider the injustice and also the futility of becoming angry at someone, who because he has had different influences and experiences than you, acts in a way you yourself would act if you were in his shoes.
Childhood experiences have shaped his subconscious in such a way that his conduct is not what others consider proper. Although we may prefer not to associate with such individuals, we are certainly wrong in hating them; their desires and lack of inhibiting desires are not of their own choosing.
Since the strongest desire always directs his actions, and since he cannot be blamed for his desires, we cannot logically be angered at his behavior any more than we can be angered at the weather. He is acting exactly as you would act in his shoes.
Anger can cause extreme unhappiness, as well as many forms of illness. It is usually unjustified. When you are angry your brain is inhibited and, therefore, you are reduced to something less than your human potential. By using affirmations with self-hypnosis, you impress upon your subconscious mind the desirability of tolerance and understanding.
List of behaviors:
Fear of public speaking
Examples of affirmations:
Controlling anger and hostility –
I accept others as they are, I like people and I like myself.
I love people for their good qualities and forgive them for the acts I disapprove off.
I am enjoying living more each day, I am happier with every day that passes.
I know the world has a lot to offer, and I concentrate on the good things.
Feelings of guilt –
I forgive myself for all things I have done in the past.
I want the best for myself. I am a happy person and live a happy, contented life.
Each day my memory is improving and I am recalling things I had previously forgotten.
I concentrate more perfectly every day and narrow my attention down to one thing and nothing else exists for me
I love people for their good qualities and forgive them for their mistakes.
I know the world has a lot of good to offer and I concentrate on the good things.
This technique will work but the affirmation will have to be repeated often before it will start taking effect. The affirmation could be combined with visualization, which will definitely enhance the affirmation a lot.