How to build your Confidence
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives.
People who enjoy great success and a happy life have a secret. They value themselves and believe they deserve the best life has to offer. Every word and action reflects their confidence and that is why they have it all. And the good news is you can joint them – right now!
The first thing you need to do is to stop worrying. A limited self-image is not something you are stuck with. It is surprisingly easy to cultivate a higher self-esteem once you know how. And once you’ve done that, you will welcome any changes that happen in your life in an instant.
You have probably discovered by now that will power doesn’t really exist and that the harder you try, the worse things become. You could be blaming yourself for things that aren’t your fault and I’m absolutely sure you underestimate your abilities and expect things to go wrong.
You might even think that your personality is fixed or that they way you are acting can’t be changed. Well none of this is true. Your personality is not fixed. The way you are acting can be changed.
If you want to change, if you want to be more confident, and if you want to be more assertive, you can do it! So take it easy ………..It’s a lot easier than you think. Hypnosis is a safe and effective way to change your life forever.
Yes you can carry yourself through difficult times. You can be happier and more successful and you can feel fantastic.
Serenity Hypnosis self-esteem and confidence booster is refreshingly different, very easy to follow and has a proven record of success. It will help you appreciate yourself more, feel better about yourself, be more assertive, improve your confidence, and be more confident in your abilities. You will be calm and positive. Your relationship with others will improve but even more importantly, your relationship with yourself will improve. Yes, its true, it is going to affect all areas of your life.
Everyone has a right to feel good about themselves, but sometimes it is difficult especially when you are having a difficult time or when someone is treating you badly. Then you usually feel as if you are drawn into a downward spiral of feeling lower and lower. You may even begin to feel bad about yourself when someone insults you, when you are under a lot of pressure at work or when you are having a difficult time getting along with someone in your family.
Most people feel bad about themselves from time to time. Feelings of low self-esteem may be triggered by being treated poorly, recently or in the past, and even by the judgement you have of yourself. This is quite normal, however, the problem is when low self-esteem becomes your constant companion. This is when it keeps you from enjoying life and doing the things you want to do.
Your lack of confidence will show in your behaviour, the body language, in what you say and what you do. Usually people who lack confidence find it difficult to be successful. They generally expect not to be successful. Some of them depend on the approval of others in order to feel good about themselves and they often put themselves down.
Self-confidence is something that we are all born with, but somehow we lose some of it along the way. We start thinking negative and forget how to be confident.
Many factors affect the development of confidence. A parent’s attitude is crucial to children’s feelings about themselves, particularly in their early years. If one or both parents are excessively critical or demanding, or they are overprotective and discourage a child’s independence, children may come to believe that they are incapable or inferior.
People don’t usually want to transform to become excessively dominant people. When someone wants to be more assertive, what they really mean is that they want to be able to resist the pressure and dominance of more dominant people. Another thing they want to be able to do is be more in control of situations that are important to them.
Having confidence doesn’t mean that you will be able to do everything. What it means is that when some of your expectations are not met, you will continue to be positive and accept yourself.
Self-confident people trust their own judgement. They are willing to risk the disapproval of others because they trust their own abilities. They accept themselves and have a general sense of control in their lives.
Things that can help you.
The first and a very important thing to start is a Stress Management Programme.
Almost everyone suffers from excess stress and what is important is how we learn to cope with it. Our reaction to stress factors, whether positive or negative, will determine the state our body and mind will be in when dealing with stress. One of the most important things you can do for your body and mind as well as aiding in building your confidence is to practise relaxation. (Mind-Body Relaxation Exercise)
The more relaxed you are, the easier you’ll be able to concentrate and the easier it will be to become more confident. Most people find it a life changing experience once they know how to deal with stress.
Secondly begin to take good care of yourself. Treat yourself as you would treat a very special loved one. When you take good care of yourself you begin to feel better about yourself.
Start eating healthy food. Go on a sensible diet and cut down on the junk food. Chew your food properly and slow down the rate at which you eat. Eating healthy is also an important step in taking care of yourself.
Start exercising. (Exercise Motivation Programme) Exercise is good for you and will help you feel better about yourself as well. Take a long walk or ride a bike. Moving your body not only help you feel better. It also helps you look great!
Make time for having fun. In other words make the time to do the things you enjoy. If you enjoy fishing – go fishing. If you like music – go to a concert. If you like animals – get a pet, or go and visit someone who has a pet.
Spoil yourself with a long bath, washing and styling your hair or trimming your nails. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself. Make a commitment that from now on you are going to treat yourself well everyday.
Do the things you’ve been putting off. Clean the house. Pay the bills and write that overdue letter!
Spend time with people that treat you well and avoid negative people or people who treat you badly.
Do something nice for another person. Go and visit a sick friend or do some voluntary work. Smile at everyone you meet and say some kind words to someone who needs it.
How about this!
Make a list of 4 of your strengths
Make a list of 4 of your accomplishments
Make a list of things that make you laugh
Make a list of ways you could help other people
Another important thing you can do is to make a list of things that you do that make you feel good about yourself.
All of these activities are aimed at helping you treat yourself better. It is the ideas of people like you, people who have a low self-esteem and are working to improve them.
Positive thinking alone is not going to help you. There are thousands of articles and books telling us that we need to think positively. And even though we read the words and agree we find that we continue to act as our old established habits dictate.
We all have many habits that are not correct yet are fixed in the mind. For example some people believe that at a crucial time they must have a drink of whisky or a tranquiliser to steady their nerves so that they can perform effectively. This is not correct but the idea is there and it is a fixed habit or thought.
Once an idea has been accepted by the subconscious mind it will remain there until it is replaced by another. The longer it is help, the more fixed it becomes. This is how habits are formed, both good and bad.
You have habits of thinking as well as habits of action, but the though comes first. So if you wish to change your actions, you must begin by changing your thoughts. To change our thoughts we have to reprogram our subconscious. The subconscious is like a computer, it simply acts the way it has been programmed to act.
And how do we do this? Through hypnosis! Positive suggestions will form new programming of the subconscious, which will result in new behaviour and it cannot be rejected by negative thoughts.
Why do you have to be in hypnosis? Because the conscious mind is the reasoning mind and has a memory factor. This memory factor recalls the times we tried to stop a certain behaviour and failed. In order to affect change we need to get past this factor and the only time this is possible, is when you are in hypnosis.
Telling yourself to be more confident is not enough and will-power will only dent the surface. You need to condition new patterns of thinking into you subconscious to effect permanent change.
And this is what’s it all about, isn’t it? You want to change. You want to feel confident in everything you say and do. You want to appreciate yourself as a person of worth and important in your own right.
Through Serenity Hypnosis Confidence Programme you can stop feeling bad about yourself needlessly and discover an amazing thing – that you are a very special and unique person and that you have a right to feel good about yourself!
Just because you’ve felt bad about yourself in the past doesn’t mean that you always going to feel that way. Serenity Hypnosis Confidence Booster can help you build your self-esteem in a way that will enable you to live life to the fullest. I promise you it will be well worth the effort!